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Are you really in love? How do you know the diference between love and infatuation? This is often difficult to determine, for there are no rules surrounding the definitions of love or infatuation. Romantic love is very much a part of the Amerian way of life and many expect some day "it" is going to hit them and they will know they are in love.
What are some of the differences between love and infatuation? Genuine love is more likely to involve a process of "growing" in love rather than "falling" in love. This may sound terribly unromantic to some who are used to hearing talk about "falling in love" or being "head over heels in love." This "falling" is often infatuation, and the sheer emotion of "falling" in love often blinds a person to the imperfections of the loved one. We tend to think of the loved one as "perfect," "ideal," or some other divine imagine. Real love sees the total person--both the "perfection" and the imperfection. Infatuation, then, is a sudden, emotional sence that one has discovered the "perfect" lover. On the other hand, love realizes imperfections and grows with the acceptance of those imperfections.
Infatuation tends to be more manipulative than love because a lasting feeling of relationship probably has not developed, so that the individuals are still concerned mainly about their own needs and satisfactions. Conversely, in love, the feeling of relationship is genuine and sincere so that concrn for the other person evolves naturally.
Physical attraction is an important part of both inatuation and love, but the superficial attraction is less important in love, for the couple experiencing love usually will build their relationship on a boader base than mere physical attraction.
Although genuine love is an ideal toward which a couple strives, you do not have to be perfect to love. True love involves a measure of self-acceptance and self-respect and a degree of self-sufficiency in order that one may accept, respect, and trust another person, but it does not require unachievable levels of these qualities. |
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